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Currently, struggles and wishes!

This post could probably be titled "Things I am struggling with" because right now I am.  I just seem to be in a funk and it's difficult to look at myself, know I am not fully enjoying life, and not know what to do to pull out of it.  I've analyzed and compiled and am left just unsure.  I am not sure if it's the progesterone shots I'm on (that's my likely guess) or just my hormones in general but overall I am left just wishing I was enjoying life a little more.  I am going to do my best to make sure the things in my control like: diet, sleep, and water aren't being ignored and go from there. 

That being said, as of today, we are officially 3 months away from baby boys due date.  It seems really far away and close at the same time.  I am starting to get to the uncomfortable phase where the belly is starting to be pretty big and twelve more weeks of growing seems.... well pretty unfeasible.  On the other hand, holy shit, 12 weeks MAXIMUM to go.  Ummm, let's think about how much we gotta get done in 12 weeks. 

In other news, I thought I would share a few items on my wish list.  Jim and I made the difficult decision that for now house hunting is tabled and we will revisit it in January.  It was made for a myriad of reason the two most important ones being:

1) we will be much more financially stable in January due to Christmas bonus.  Yes we probably could move now but why stress ourselves out for the next four-five months especially with...

2) baby boys birth.  Of course we are hoping and praying for a complication free delivery but one never knows.  No need to compile stress when we can just wait and get him home safely.

That being said.... it hasn't stopped me from reworking multiple rooms and layouts in my head.  Here are a few items I am craving.

1) natural textures like this tablecloth featuring jute

2) this large wooden clock from JBJunkMarket on etsy. I am obsessed with this clock ever since I saw it about a year ago.  The price tag is hefty but I know I would use it my whole life.

3) a new area rug (this one is from amazon).  I am most likely going to be hitting local discount stores for a new rug but I would love something lighter and patterned for our family room.  I am trying to rid ourselves of the brown!

4) a double strand initial necklace.  we haven't decided on a boys name yet but I can't wait to get a necklace with both of their initials.  I love the strong lettering look of this one from ElegantSwan.

5) okay last necklace.  I wear a necklace almost every day, that being said Burnish has become my favorite shop on Etsy for unique and wearable jewelry.  I asked for this necklace for Christmas two years ago and wear it almost daily.  That being said, we can always add to the collection with this beautiful stone necklace featured above.

So that's what's topping my wish list recently.  What about you all?  Any unique items you want to share?


  1. I wanted to drop in to say hi and that I'm your newest follower. I found your blog through your powerful post on Wifessionals. Your little girl is beautiful and congrats on baby #2! I'm excited to follow your blog and see your family grow.


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